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Home » Estate Planning Articles » Fair Does Not Always Mean Equal

Fair Does Not Always Mean Equal

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Written By: The American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys

“It’s not fair!”

 

Parents hear this protest all the time, and it often comes from children who confuse being treated fairly with being treated equally.

 

One of the challenges of parenting is figuring out how to be fair to your children when, often, that doesn’t mean treating them exactly the same. Here’s an example:

 

Andy is ten years old and Emma is sixteen. Emma has her driver’s license and a part-time job. If you wanted to treat the two equally, you could insist that Emma ride the bus home from school, eat dinner with the family every night, and be in bed by 9:00 just like her brother. This arrangement would be equal, but it would hardly be fair to Emma. She’s older, she has more responsibilities, and she’s ready for more privileges.

 

The fair vs. equal dilemma doesn’t end when your children leave the nest. In fact, it often extends into your estate plan. It’s easy to feel that you must divide your assets equally among your children. In reality, though, this isn’t always the best plan for your family. The real question is how to accommodate your children’s unique needs so that your estate plan strikes a fair balance.

 

Imagine you have three children, Tom, Adam, and Amy. Each of your children has a thriving career. Tom is an IT specialist, Amy is a doctor, and Adam has helped you build the family business into the success it is today. In fact, your family business is so successful that it makes up much of your net worth.

 

This leads to a dilemma: how do you divide your estate? It makes sense to leave your family business to Adam. He has a passion for it, and he’s poured his life into it for years. The problem is, doing so would mean that Adam would inherit most of your estate – a result that is neither fair nor equal.

 

Another option would be to leave each of your children an equal interest in your business. However, this solution would likely be neither fair nor practical. Tom and Amy have their own careers, with little interest in the day-to-day running of the family business. Entangling them in its operations would not only be a cause of pressure for them, it might turn into a source of conflict, ultimately harming your children and the business.

 

The solution might be to leave the business to Adam, and buy a life insurance policy on yourself to benefit Tom and Amy. The life insurance policy would increase your net worth in an amount sufficient to fund Tom’s and Amy’s inheritances and ensure your children are treated fairly, meeting their individual needs.

 

This is only one of a range of possible solutions. An experienced estate planning attorney can help you sort through all your estate planning options and settle on the plan that best meets your family’s needs so you’ll never again have to hear, “It’s not fair!”

Date: December 3, 2017

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